Writing Changes Life; Life Changes Writing

Now, that is a powerful heading!

Exactly one year back, on this day, something changed! Something I had never foreseen happened in my life. It was an accident, and what a journey it has been post that! It was last year on this day I started writing this column.

phucket-listWell, someone who knows me from before knows that the bond between me and writing was as strong as that of Hrithik Roshan and Kangana Ranaut. I had never written anything post college – and “writing” in an Architecture College was as negligible as it could get! And then, before I knew it, I was sucked in the “bucket-list” phase, and somehow “starting a blog” made it to that list. Unlike most other things on it, I did manage to do this – either I was in I-need-to-get-out-of-my-comfort-zone phase or this was the easiest of the lot.

To cut a long story short, this blog led to this column and before long, I started producing 500 words/week. Today, in retrospect, I realise it has affected me in many ways – Not saying this because it sounds fancy, or it is like the thing-to-say – but it has.  I don’t know how much has it “changed” my life, but it sure does have an influence over it – just like my life has an influence on my writing. From being a complete socialist-activist in some weeks, to a naïve 20 year old experiencing quarter-life crisis, from being a dreamer of achieving unattainable goals to a wannabe humour columnist, my writing has seen it all – and so has my life.

There are a few things that I could really learn from the writing experiences, and apply them to my life, and voila! May be I get better at living as well.

  • Create a lot of garbage.

And I am not talking about the galore that we have on our streets. But the only way of writing better is writing more. Sometimes most of it is crap. But somewhere in the 1000 words of bunkum, you find gold, which goes on to become one of your finest pieces. Similarly, somewhere along trying and failing, falling and getting up, you learn to do life right. Or do you ever?

  • Re-create history

One event, and so many versions of it! Writing enables you to have the flexibility of changing your interpretation of any topic, situation, and occurrence. And such a beautiful thing to actually live by! I feel Human Beings have a special power of re-creating their past- just by changing their perspective. Such an easy way to make peace with our most daunting memories!

  • Simplify:

The more you simplify the way you write, the more everyone connects to it. Complexity breeds confusion – in you, your article, and the reader. And also in life. We love complicating it, but the simpler thing to do is to simplify. Principle for life – Keep it simple, silly!

Before this starts to seem like my self-proclaimed best-debutant award at one of those paid award shows, I should stop here.

PS- This column is an expression of my philosophical mood. #OhYeah

Random Marketing Opportunity

Roses are Red,

Violets are Blue,

I will never find a friend,

As amazing as you!

Woah! Those were the days. Oh, how I thought only Facebook’s memories feature could remind me of how lame, silly, and astonishingly ludicrous I was at 17– just like 17-year olds are supposed to be! Ouch. But, I was wrong. Friendships’ day does a better job of that!

Every Friendship day I am reminded of celebrating Friendship day as a teenager. Do you even know how humiliating it could be to share the same body with a person who at some point celebrated Friendship day, and sent all those cheesy messages (one night before, because Marwaari). To make it worse, I even meant them then! *cries like the rejected cocoa from Ghana*

And tomorrow, some of us are going to ensure that they feel like me when they grow up and find more mature things to do like finding Pikachu. By us, I mean people who watch Splitsvilla on TV but are friend-zoned in reality. The first Sunday of August – Friendzone Divas.

The concept of Friendship Day was first promoted in 1930 by Joyce Hall, the founder of Hallmark Cards. This was followed by International Fitness Day by makers of Diet Coke. The concept lived on thanks largely to the efforts of an organisation in Paraguay called – and this is true – the World Friendship Crusade, who introduced the concept of World Friendship Day in 1958. Their idea was to make this world into a Pharell William’s Happy video – for every living second. I am not making this up! It’s absolutely, one hyndred percent true.

And crusade? Really? I mean the word crusade stands for friendship in the same way Salman Khan stands for Being Human. So basically how UN works is that anyone can form a “crusade” and demand to celebrate anything on any day, and they agree. No wonder it is such a well-respected organisation in the world! Going by their history of catering to unreasonable and naïve demands, I guess Arvind Kejriwal should start a “dharna” there. May be something will come out of it, and someone will go out of our country.

And then I guess, they didn’t have to do anything, because Bollywood took over. It taught me to celebrate Friendship Day by losing at basketball, and then marrying her when she gets hot. Which was closely followed by social media taking over and a gazillion “Will you do Fraandship with me?” messages. The poem escalated quickly to a brand new mantra-

Roses are red

Facebook is blue

No mutual friends

Who the hell are you?

768b919fa22206ad0360afc9e99e9a8eFriendships work differently now. The older you get, the harder it becomes to make friends, mostly because everyone thinks everyone else is weird. The loneliness eventually leads people to take extreme steps, like arranged marriage. Consider yourself lucky if you have more than a handful of these around. Keep in touch and if you’re feeling extra nice – Happy Random Marketing Opportunity Day to you!

One Year Of Writing!

Today, it was a great surprise for me when the website wished me a happy one year anniversary! It has been a year! OMG. Not completely believing it, I cross-checked with the date when I first clicked on ‘publish’ – 15 April, 2014!

Woot!!!

A lot can happen in a year. A few things you plan for, while others just unfold!  One thing I have realised is there is a great pleasure in doing something you love, but the thrill of doing something that makes you uncomfortable , and you successfully overcoming you inhibitions, is incomparable. And keep doing it till it becomes a part of you,  that you actually start another blog ( yeah, blatant marketing – upluscollective.wordpress.com), are always thinking of what next should I write about, are looking around for inspiration, and are always learning.

In addition to that, I also have realised that I use ‘absolutely’ a lot. And also, ‘also’ and ‘and’.

For me, just like I had hoped in my first post,  it was quite an experience. But I don’t think I have been able to really “improve” in my writing skills, or even to “untangle” my thoughts – I may just have ended up tangling them even further, in fact. But I am totally enjoying this journey, and that is what really matters!

Cheers to one year and more! 😀

#Note to self – Think about the next thing you never thought you would do, and jump (into it, of course)! 😉