Happy 18th on your 81st, Dadaji!

When I sit to write about you, for you – it seems so easy because there is so much to you – and yet, so difficult, because all that is said is always so little. There are absolutely no words to describe this feeling of love, this feeling of immense gratitude that I am feeling right now.

This task seems so complex…

Because you make this list never-ending! For a multi-faceted personality like yours, I know it even before I have started writing about it!

Because of “swad” on every Sunday!

Because you are the epitome of wisdom.

Because your eyes see beyond what is, foresees beyond what will be, beholds what has been, besides being a window to the clear soul that there is.

Because why should I read any inspirational book to get motivated, when I can just listen to abstracts from your life!

Because you are a sea of knowledge.

Because of your unconventional, creative way of looking at and dealing with things.

Because from the funniest joke to most serious of the problems, from art to politics, I can share anything with you!

Because you know so much about everything all around the world.

Because you do not need to travel anywhere or meet people per say to connect to them! A strong connection can be formed just over an email or an article, and a new friendship is just a phone call away!

Because all said and done, you knew never to mess with one’s wife – dadiji! Hehe! But seriously, you both complemented each other beautifully!

Because you are the thread that binds us all together, and yet not a knot that we feel. The balance is always so right.

Because you taught me – अति सर्वत्र वर्जयेत् | That is one learning I keep very close to my heart. And it was easy to remember, watching you do it every breathing second of your life.

Because it is difficult to believe that you were a bundle of mischief “in your times”, yet it makes perfect sense – from troublemaker to troubleshooter!

Because you are our guardian angel!

Because of being the most tech-savvy 81 year old around!

Because you are personification of patience, of acceptance, of change, of flexibility, of moulding yourself to the present. You do it so beautifully dada. At your age when most people become so rigid about their beliefs, you break one of mine, each day, every day!

Because you are not old and fragile, but so young and agile!

Because you have kept the doors of the house, and your heart open to one and all. Your heart is so BIG, it has space for everybody- without one feeling like they are travelling in the Mumbai local! 😉

Because we are all so blessed to have you around us – all the time!

Because you are oh so practical!

Because in this age of internet connection and data connection, you have taught me the most important of them all – Human connection!

Because you have more zest about life than all of us put together!

Because at one moment you know-it-all, and the other you are a curious child who is awed by all that is humanly possible now!

Because if I could be even 0.1% of what you are, I will consider to have lived my life well!

Because you a living legend, my super-hero!

Because I am not sure if I want to stop writing yet!

Dadaji, I have realized why is there a ‘grand’ in grandfather – because grand also means marvelous, glorious, magnificent, splendid, awe-inspiring, elevated – you are all of this and much much more! J

I love you.

Your “laadli”,

OJ

Declutter

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Clean your room, I was told, not clear your mind,

Keep things in place, not thoughts in check,

Be neat and tidy, not strong and mighty,

Oh, I wish, order in mind was made elementary!

Most of us like things in order.Yeah! We do. Remember the happiness of investing half a holiday in cleaning your room, clearing the mess, throwing away the past, sticking to what is needed? It is often correlated to feeling light.  Is it?

I think what we do with our mind is exactly the opposite. Most cleanliness freaks have messed up minds! In fact, we stick to our shit, our past, our emotions, our hatred, our mistakes, our guilt like they are the most important part of our being. Moreover, we not only do not let them go, we also compare and prove how our shit is better than theirs! It is surprising, fascinating!

Seriously, notice it the next time. If one person is telling the other how his life sucks, the other person will, in most cases, say, “Yeh toh kuch bhi nahi hai!” and goes on till the person 1 feels awesome about his life! We take pride in our crap! In doing so, we waste the present, and make it a part of the crappy past! Oh, crap!

Lets start cleaning our mind. NOW. Create space for today. Make more room in there. Choose what you keep. Choose things that are pretty. Make it look good in your eyes. Feel good. Feel light. Let go. Declutter.